We are social beings; we crave social interactions. And it doesn’t matter if we are introverted or extroverted, it is natural for us to seek to improve relationships. That said, it can be tricky to genuinely connect with the right people, as well as to maintain good healthy relationships with them. Toxic relationships can be draining and destructive. 

On the other hand, positive relationships can lift you, grow you, and positively impact your mood, your career, and your general wellbeing.

Improving Relationships Starts With You

A relationship is a connection between two people, and while it’s true that you can’t control or change the attitude of others, you have the choice to work on yours. What improving relationships mean is actually improving yourself first.

What You Can Do to Improve Any Relationship 

1. Find out what’s important to you in relationships

Know what you’re looking for in relationships. Understand your needs first. Most people would say trust, mutual respect, empathy, and open communication. Knowing what you need from others and what you are trying to fulfill in yourself will help you communicate better and build satisfying relationships.

2. Select and focus on likeminded people

It’s easier to build good relationships with people who share your values. Connect with people who share your beliefs, interests, and mindset. Remember: “You’re the average of the five people spend the most time with.”

3. Take the lead and connect

Be proactive and make the first step. Enter each conversation with a positive mindset as if something good will come for me it.

4. Communicate better

Learn how to communicate your needs wants and requests better. Improve your communication skills by learning about non-violent communication techniques. Be expressive, yet respectful and indulgent. And don’t forget that communication is only 7 percent verbal and 93 percent non-verbal.

5. Listen better

To listen better, be genuinely curious about the other person’s perspective. Focus on what others are saying to you and ask questions to keep the conversation flowing. Another part of listening is also looking for what’s not being explicitly said. Practice being empathetic and try to understand the other person’s perspective.

6. Be more open

Relationships, whether at work or in our personal lives, are a two-way street. Remember that it’s not always about you. Sometimes you have to be open to other people’s suggestions and make compromises to get along, as long as they don’t go against your values.


Good relationships don’t happen overnight. They take time and effort to build.

  • Know what’s important to you.
  • Connect with likeminded people.
  • Take the lead.
  • Listen and communicate better.
  • Be open and empathetic.